It's Been Months And I Still Think About Her - Magnet of Success My mom's mom died 5 years after my brother. I feel my loss in every other post here. I work long hours to take my mind off it. Its been 3 months of pure hell. My stomach feels like it is in shreds and I have lost a lot of weight due to a nervous stomach and lack of appetite. I just want them back. Im hanging on, but like others here, I dont know why. This sounds so painful! Things that have worked for others may work for you, too. But it'll get better. But i go on alone in this pain. And everyday is one step everyday is one step closer to where we all want to be with our loved ones. I miss him on movie night. He emailed me back within minutes, wanting a reconciliation, he also had dumper's remorse. We were married 35 years, and I will never stop missing her. Will I ever feel any happiness? Lonely after two days of being broken up so you **** some other guy? I was shocked when my husband of 49 years died in his sleep. And throwing myself into work but still, all of those things dont take away the void. It's so important to lend expression to your feelings and not bottle it up. First: this attachment is . This is toughI know it happens unconsciously and its not a case of asking a griever to deny the loss or feeling. It's only been one week for me today, and one week NC. I went to the doctor and received a clean bill of health. The grief and loneliness is unbearable. , You need to be a member in order to leave a comment. He took care of me while I worked in his home-based business. Im reading this page yet Im not. My mom passed away Thanksgiving Day, 2013 at the age of 74 after two very intensive months of rapidly progressive dementia. Hello! You can't get out of bed. I thought to myself I didn't come all this way to do something I could do at home: sit in a room and watch tv, but I didn't want to go out alone and worry my dad. I had never experienced anything like that in my life! I NEVER FELT RELIEVED WHEN MY WIFE PASSED AWAY. When I am alone which most of the time it is so hard.I make lists of things to do every day just to keep occupied. I know. You're gonna be okay and quit worrying about what I'm thinking". If you aren't meant to be together and you BU honorably and walk away and never think twice, that's perfectly fine and you shouldn't feel guilty, you should feel good you did the right thing. I only been down this road for 7 to 8 months now. The evenings are especially lonely, having dinner alone and not having anyone to laugh with. Why can't I move on from my ex? It's been 6 months after the - Quora It seems to cycle though we are all different as they say. I feel for you all so much and am so sorry for your headache your all going through too. It's Been 8 Months Since My Mom Died And I'm Losing It! Physically I can not have anymore children. Its calmed me down just a bit. My ex got with a guy the same week that we broke up. Ich bin jetzt fnf Tage hier. Dont say thatI feel the same way but there is a reason for you to still be hereyou have work to do so it and make him proud. I gave up work to become his soul caregiver (we were also very fortunate to have some wonderful friends around us to keep our/his spirits up) at the same time our beloved furbaby french bulldog had a freak accident and had to be euthanasied 10 days before his human daddy passed. Although I have read some of the same words in other post I can't help but think no one knows how I feel. I took care of him for 4 months up until he passed at home. So with that in mind, here are some ideas of what NOT to do if you are struggling with loneliness following a loss: 1. Suddenly I was willing to look past all the things about her that drove me to make that decision. Confused when she accepted. I'll get there one day, hopefully. Seek counseling locally, grief group participation as soon as you can. Hard to see how I will ever be happy again. My husband of 50 years died 22 months ago.i am lonely and no one cares.He was a very loving kind person. The cancer and all its side affect tore him down strokes heart attacks seizures blood clots. He had pain in his left shoulder. Things can only work out in your relationship only if you give chance to the right person to assist you. I walk in a sleepwalked haze and daze each day just going through the motions. And I cant explain it. So who wants me? My heart goes out to you. No one can prepare you for something like this. They thought it may have been caused by my thyroid being out of balance. I was watching tv by myself in bed when suddenly I felt very nervous. I kept myself busy , too busy. Her physical deterioration was irreversible and therefore any wish that I had for her not to die was irrational and unrealistic. The fourth and final one took her. The Lord is helping me but Im not healed all the way yet. I actually took today off from work because I felt that I really needed some time to regroup and refresh. Invincible. I'm heading to Vegas with my husband on Monday to celebrate our 20th anniversary. Marty made a very good point. I was her care giver right till the end. Im 61 ad she was 69. Now Im beating myself up inside. My dad has come along way over the past 8 months with cooking, cleaning and shopping. These months have felt like a kind of never ending concussion. This is the hardest walk I have ever walked, and I myself have had cancer. Ich kam fnf Tage vor meinem ersten Match hier an und hoffte natrlich auf ein gutes Resultat. I lost my husband on February 5, 2017. I cant tell you the deepness of being alonebut you know all too well. I have began reading and reading and more reading. All is well God is in charge. I miss her so much it hurts so bad. The part of our brain that governs emotional reactions. tears help to wash away the pain It worked better when she said it instead of me saying it to myself now. My heart began to pound out of my chest. com] I still cant really say what great mutaba did actually but i can boldly say that the prophet gave my relationship that perfect fixing that my relationship was lacking happiness/love and through this my lover is seeking for me to marry him without wasting no more time. In some way or another we are all searching for those who will understand us, who can help fill some of the void and emptiness we feel. Dont let people make you feel bad, there is no right or wrong way to mourn & there is no time limitation on how long you can mourn someone that meant the world to you. I will continue to go on. Life will never be the same. I lost you husband 2 months ago. It's common to feel guilt after loss, we go over and over in our mind the last days and wish we'd said/done something differently. He seemed to be getting better in the hospital with oxygen therapy until he had a heart attack later the same day. Now Im fighting to get him back. I had been talking to my estranged father (also a physician) who lives in another country and my emotions ranged between deep anger and resentment at him to extreme pain at my mom's absence. Powered by Invision Community. I miss everything about him and what we were to each other. He spent most of that time in the hospital. He was gunned down 12 times. I have had a few co-workers that have called in sick feeling weak, tired, shaky and upset stomach. I am ashamed to let you know that I didnt fight hard enough for my responsibilities and will always regret for not taking a strong stand. Good for you, dear one ~ good for you! It's not too long, and something that differs from person to person. I am better than I was the first 4 weeks by a vast amount. One, the dumper is the one making the choice, picks the place, timing, everything, they can take days or weeks to prepare themselves, so many advantages. In fact, I took over as her caregiver by taking her to her doctor's appointments, cooking and cleaning, grocery shopping, entertaining her via traveling for many years. Loneliness is so profound after a loss . I know its not good because not one person from my wifes family has called to talk with me since she passed. Dont spend time with those who will bring you down In loneliness there can be such an urgency and desperation to fill the empty time and spacesthat we mayfind ourselves clinging to just about anyone. my best friend and companion. My husband of 47yrs died of glioblastoma w me, Easter wknd; I was hs only caregiver and no other family I avoid needed tasks, they make me think of my reality, so I watch other ppls lives in movies etc to escape. I feel guilty because i took her off all social media and told her i was going NC. Im 49 and a half. The problem is I don't have control over when these good or bad feelings come and go. ***Get 100% guaranteed ex back spells through Lord Zakuza. My wife and I were together for many years and always decided what to do in tough situations. Write me if you want Juliette Crossley 4 Fore St. Bere Alston Devon PL207AD. My father and a family friend were down the hall in another room, but I didn't want to wake anybody up. Hope this helps you. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. My husband is very supportive but I feel that he must think I'm hanging on too long. going through the motions. I feel so exhausted all the time. Perhaps you can find yourself in one or multiple of these. I hope your doing ok now. Its been six months and i still cant get over her - Relationship Talk I lost my husband after 54yrs of marriage and 2yrs of dating. I dont have any other family nor do I have kids. I am so lost. I do basic things-shop- but I look at other more fortunate still going. I cry when I need to cry. I'd be over the moon if I just had a boyfriend. Spending time with the right person (and by right I mean the right person for who you are now and what you need now) can be a wonderful thing. It can be due to grief. it sent me into a very bad meltdown. How are you doing several months later? We had so many good times with much love. I keep reading this BS about going on. Of course i still love her and want her back, to be together again would be beautiful. He was much more acute than I so I put him on the front burner. Im very sorry for our loss. I dont really go to church and I havent scheduled grief meetings yet but my heart does go out to the people here that have or are feeling the emptiness in their lives. Answer (1 of 19): The reason you are not able to get over him is simple. Then i picked myself up got dressed and went out, and i felt a bit better. Keep your health up, see your doctors and tell them what you think you need from them. In time Ill talk it through with someone. Life just does not have the same enjoyment. Through Hospice, I began 12 weeks of bereavement group support two months after my mom's passing because I felt I couldn't get through the process alone. I sold our home of 23 years and moved into a little trailer and am working for elderly and disabled people and so I have people to help and to talk to. Sending a Hug from AZ. When we lose our mothers, regardless of gender, how old we were, the circumstances or how many years have passed, we continue to miss our mothers. We used to hold hands every night while we drifted off to sleep, I yearn to hold his hand, have him say my name. I also dumped my bf, but it wasn't because I didn't care about him, there were a few reasons but the main one was that he wasn't over his ex and was therefore emotionally unavailable. Being there for my daughter has kept me sane but I have never been that good at talking to her love her so much but cant help her like her mum did they where so close . He developed pneumonia that was too hard to beat. And since grief seems to add at least a few decades to how most grieversfeel, it can be especially difficultto have the energy to put ourselves out there after loss. Its the feeling when the sadness feels well-worn and exhausted, and the well of tears has run dry. It's not uncommon to have anxietyif you had it before your loss, perhaps it isn't, but if it's something new, that may be the case. I know that I bring a lot on myself. Im so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife. Prayers to all. its now 16 months and im still not doing well ! Take it easy, winstonsdreams I know how you feel! Because I dare not do anything that might jeopardize my seeing her again. Down below is a list of 4 prevalent reasons why people from all over the world miss their ex-lovers. They was only one and two years old when we adopted them. It sucks because after we broke up she said all these things like i was the one and we were meant to be, and when i came round she had done a 180, and she was happy with another man. I have let her go since. I have had to help my dad deal with his loss. I just feel so bad that he was all alone. Perhaps its the very acute and tangibleloneliness a person experiences coming home to the empty house they used to share with a spouse. Dear Janet. My heart goes out to you . Getting thru one day at a time is even rough. Yeah it sucks because of the emotional pain but we have no other choice. All rights reserved. You see, when we truly love someone, the grief we feel at the loss of that person never really leaves us. ich bin jetzt fnf Tage hier - Reverso The first year actually seemed better with so many friends and family rallying around me and constantly inviting me out. Being almost eight years let me say ,hang in there , there will be bad days and there will be good days.enjoy the good days and endure the bad ones. Maybe she needs you. All that I can do is to Pray Pray Pray 4 Courage Strength n Wisdom and oh yes Lotd Hod in Heaven Love???. My husband of 44 years died 8 years ago of pancreatic cancer. I wish it werent so, but life is full of hard knocks. Joy,Im so sorry for your loss I too lost my husband Jerry on May 17th 2018 cardiac arrest out of no where.Im broken beyond loneliness..We were inseparable married for 38 yrs. Just my daughter no family. Love your self, cry when you want to, just go through each step if grief. he told me he had not slept because he was thinking about a good movie we had watched the night before and was wondering what would happen in the sequel (which is still in production). You are so right .I have my dogs &horses that keep me going my husband died3 years ago loneliness just creeps in , Ive lost my husband two years ago he was only 49yrs we were married for3ere my best friend I am only 49yrs and its like a part of me died with him but praying to God for peace has help me but the lonelyness is still very hard. It's Been 8 Months Since My Mom Died And I'm Losing It! Still, there is a very fine line of when thats normal and when its something moreIf at any point you feel you truly cant go on and need more help, please dont hesitate reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. grief is a part of life that we shall all go through in the stages of life , some find it while they are young but i found it when we had been married for 63 years my wife had suffered for years with her lungs right from the age of 20 when she first started with bronchiectus and had part of her lung removed .she was a great lady and never let her health hold her back we had buisnesses all our life and worked together all the time and she worked so hard .but over the last five years she really found it hard to live and after a fall she broke her femur and finished up in hospital and as aresult of an operation on her leg she could not carry on and they sent her home and she died in my arms the night the hospital sent her home she had just had enough .so now when i think if she had survived she would really be suffering again so i know that leaving me was what i would have wanted to save her more suffering if she could have carried on as she was.we have loads of memories so i try to think of the things we did together .I have her ashes in my living room and a photo of her and every day i talk to her remains as if she is still with me .you might thgink its silly but at least i have part of her still with me .i was always fitness orientated so i statrted going to the gym im working our one hour a day and am getting my fitness going again i have no family ao going to the gym finds me something to do i go about 4 days a week and my fitness help with my mind and stops me thinking about stupid things and i am making friends there going to the gym would help a lot of lonely people, Your email address will not be published. My husband was taken from me, 15th May 2020. I dont have friends, Im not great in social settings, I no longer have goals or aspirations, im just kinda lliving on autopilot. I have to begin combating negative thoughts and emotions with positive thoughts of healing. I visit Joanne each Sunday morning before church and talk to her telling her what happened to me during the week. We where married 63 years and im 83 now i have sufferd likre you with lonliness and no family as such so i started to go to the Gym as i had always looked after my fitness and looking after my wife for the oast 3 years i had put on weight so im on a diet and going to the gym 5 days a week and meeting people that go there and spend an hour a day monday to friaday working out the people on recieption cant believe that im doing what im doing but ity has given me something else to think about and helps with my lonliness and i also have my wifes ashes in the living room window with a photo of my wife and i talk to her a lot while im in the house alone and i talk to her as if she is still with me hoppe this helps gary. I''m sorry mom, you taught me everything but how to live without you. I feel your pain. I cant stop thinking all I want is him back and how could this of happened to us, all we did is work our butts off and try to be good people. Maybe even earlier. my husband of 33 1/2 years dies of lung cancer metastasized to brain on Nov 4, 18. ICU, emergency surgeries, being moved to an acute care center then back to the ER and ICU to Palliative care. I am in agony. My mom passed away unexpectedly from a heart attack (65yrs old) at the end of September, she had just retired and was looking forward to even more time with her grand boys. Practice self care. Updated on August 12, 2021 Verywell / Catherine Song As a therapist, I already knew a thing or two about grief at least on an intellectual level. Tracy, I am so sorry for your loss. By Still missing my ex after 6 months Even after 6 months, and several months of therapy, I'm still not over my ex. The pain of losing him so suddenly and traumatically he was only 10 and a tumor we didn't know about ruptured has made me a weepy mess. It may not even be the first few years. I broke up with my GF but I still love and miss her. What do I do? I too lost my husband to be (he was only 46 Im 31) last Oct 2019, he was diagnosed with renal cell kidney cancer stage 4 in June and it had metastasized to his liver, bowel, main artery and lungs by end of Sept. Every part of our past, present, and future revolved around this person, and to be without them is harder, sadder, and lonelier than we ever could have guessed. I know that grief takes time. Tears are like the release valve on the pressure cooker. I told my husband and he said I was being ridiculous. Because these are the people who may be ready to make the connections and to find the right people to spend time with.