Two weeks after I left shes out dancing and posting pictures on Facebook and instagram while I worry about my kids well being shes out having fun. When I have been upset and called to to him he has been very cold and mean.telling me he hated being in a relationship with hated being a family and so on. Maybe once I can accept that then Ill start to move on, at least from crying and feeling like I cant and dont want to even get out of bed. Hes a selfish man who was only thinking about himself and is in crisis. She was my everything, my whole reason for being. People snap. Our marriage had had its problems but we were so strong we had overcome everything. I know Id feel better getting my stuff together lol. Not every day is fireworks and high school passion, my love. This I also discovered. Hi my husband has a habit, of being with me for about 4-5months , then takes off to do any and every thing for about two weeks . I told myself I was going to focus on my health, going to workout again & eat right. I am in a deep and dark place.I am totally stressed out.I love her so much. Come to find out, there have been several items packed and taken from the home. Im going to go cry some more before he comes home to dump me over dinner. I dont want to hear oh hes a jerk for leaving or he probably found someone else. Im sad, I want him back more than anything else in my life, so right now I cant think past hoping my phone rings, that he emails me, comes back to me..cause truth is, he probably isnt and I dont want to deal and dont know how to deal with that. That was not even all my husband and his girlfriend did. Then my wife was charged with felonies 2 for fraud and 1 for forgery.. in 2015 she switch to alcohol now she has driven me and our kids out of the house to my parents I am biblical and believe I cannot get a divorce because what the Bible says. In hind site, probably too much. She had agreed that I could have the kids both Friday and Saturday night and bring them back in Sunday as Im sure it suited her quite well and by now I am desperate to see my kids. It would of been 10 years of marriage this year. Now she was gone two weeks and something was different. I noticed subtle differences in her towards me, emotionally. $('.submenu').hide(); !my son and my daughter in law found me twist the rope around my neck and around the tree but it was broke, I lay lifeless and I know that is divine intervention with my Holy Father anyway my point is is that I would not be able to endure what my husband did to me, without Jesus I mean I begged him on my hands and knees and help me with the pain cuz I couldnt handle anymore and one day he took it from me I no longer have it like I did Im confused now but my husband so I dont know what to do if he were to come back into my life but I would do it because God wanted me to and marriage is sacred to God and I dont want to go against my father I promise you thats the only way youll endure the suffering , and be assured that with every one of my trials and tribulations I have found the blessing the blessings outweigh any thing that we have suffered and we also have to keep in mind look at Jobe what he went through look what Jesus went through for usits only through this Christ that you will find true peace. I have divorced my wife, with no ill will. She use to tell me I was a good man and was so good to her. Believe me evil exists in the world I will pray that you will never experience this great of an evil, but you will experience some evil. Youre an excellent father and she should be happy to have you. He is worried about more his material things than me or our marriage. He worked through the anger already. We sold our home we owned together, yet I paid the mortgage as we were looking for a change. I dont even care how she treats me anymore, but its tearing our son up and that is really hard to see, knowing theres little I can do for him. I could never disapline them. Relationships with narcissists have a cycle to them that plays out again and again. Have you thought about maybe having the teacher of your oldest daughter call DYFS? Then we were transferred to another state for his job. My only piece of wisdom from this whole scenario is that I have a Christian faith and it has really been keeping me sane by praying. cheat ,refuse to except your responabillity dont come crying when the shit hits the fan and nobody wants nothing to do with you .I love my kids still love my wife and will do anything to make their live good I wish her all the best with the new man but fear , a relationship built on lies and deceit is a disaster waiting to happen .Good luck to all who have been cheated on I wish you all the happiness you can find be strong and trust in yourself , trust me nobody but you can make this better so walk with head held high feel proud that you didnt sink to their level best of luck one mightily piss off deserted husband. I am blessed to have a wonderful circle of friends and family to support me .. My wife of 10 years went on a weekend trip with our daughter. Im devastated. My husbands sister just got served with divorce papers today Thats her me time and its insulting I dare ask that. It sounds like she just couldnt take the build up emotionally anymore, but that can be fixable. My friends have brilliant in all this and Im starting to feel like in time I will get over this but the hurt is sometimes unbearable. They say that telling someone you love them is one thing, but showing them is something else. He also sleeps in another room if I pursue him or attempt to resolve anything or he leaves the house. You may never get the answer you are looking for from your partner, but there are several common reasons why someone leaves a relationship. The very best i could do is tip toe and stear her away from the many triggers for her depression and rage. Keep your head, standards, and heels high. Worst day of my life just praying she would come to her senses and save our family. If I had had this information back when I started courting my spouse specifically pertaining to her, I would NEVER have committed to anything. WebGood Afternoon! }); No marriage is perfect.you take the good with bad.and we had alot of good. I guess theres a lot of money being made in the divorce and recovery business encouraging people like my ex wife to wreck our families. My kids are suffering too. What happened? This menopause matter is not funny. Its like he wants to keep me down. First he started four days after our wedding to over communicate in the internet and made sure that I dont see what he does. Because the trust has simply gone. we were happyhappy for 2 years. Any problem she has she phones the bloke she left me for is a condescending arse this was not the first affair ive since found out there have been 4 in the last ten years I knew about one and worked hard 6 years ago to forgive and forget . She is looking for a new Hm and we are still all in the same house. Dont you think you deserve better than that???? The common age seems to be women in their mid thirties. Im so hurt n lost. The message is so strong and clear when there is infidelity, unlike opaque reasons such as boredom or lack of compatibility. She missed everything. I went to my room to get some clothes and on the bed was his stained boxers next to her stained panties. I hope youre doing OK. Did you ever get a reason? If those people were true friends they would tell them that what they are doing or have done is wrong . He has a brother Brad who is 25. I know for my own good I will have to pick up my shattered heart and live as if it never happened. And that this medication for *seizures* was effective *because* of the way my neurological system and brain was processing the lengthy aftermath of that injury. she just kept it in and kept it a secret.he was sending her money, and they were making plans for a long time her to leave and moved to England.now theyre engaged to be married and are making wedding plans.and also looking into a goth wedding, with a blood red dress and even have a guest invitation list.all this and she is still married to me.the divorce is pending, because of abandonment and being international,it could take years to finalize.I am at a loss for answers, I have no closer.I guess I will never get closer.this is clearly the worst thing that is ever happened to me. Kind regards, The GoodTherapy Team, It is a real shame that my ex wife turned out to be a real filthy low life, since at that time that i was married which i was the very faithful and committed one in the relationship. I dont temember- FYI Im in NJ. vertical-align: -0.1em !important; He acts like he hates me and he told me at Christmas that he is sick of me and he doesnt care if i stay or left but,i can leave the kids. I have always loved her and I feel like I always will. It was the worst 30mins of my life and it felt pressed and forced. Sometimes you have to keep telling yourself its not you, its really them and they will get theres on there time. This has seemed to stifle his attacks on me for being at fault for his unhappy life. Note if I ever said and did that he would lose his shit so I said just that and also repeated that I would like to be left alone right now so that I dont say something I dont mean (I was beginning to get really frustrated). Change your life train. I dont understand how someone can throw you out of your own house . Who locks their 3 year old out in the place with your bedroom door locked and not answering the child cry until the next morning when your mother shows up with your older child because you cant watch her overnight anymore and really dont watch the other one. I am in shock. I sleep and eat baflt. Im done. I thought to myself what the fk? We started dating young and it was really a fairytale relationship. And now she wants to leave. Her boss can have her, she will do the same thing to him. Hi Kelly, I know what it feels like to go through that. She knows not what she does. So as painful as it is for you think about that. I dont know how to feel. Everything I am not!! 8. Dont let me suffer too long. Hello! Call out to the lord! Apparently, they had worked together at his previous location and she lived in our new location and worked in an adjacent area. Nah Im good thanks, I can and will survive this, besides I had a few hours sleep last night. Neither of us if ever been unfaithful so far as I know. It will be awful and painful and confusing. Its an interesting perspective because I dont feel like I did anything, but if you asked my husband he would say that my lack of emotion towards him and response when he says he tried to reach out to me, time and time again, is the reason that he left. Let them go find their happiness now, it sounds like its time or rather soon. She claims to have been feeling this way for a year, but what hurts is that she not only didnt tell me, but she has used all 5 of those reasons listed. When its over When you split up, you may find it very hard to let go of your ex-partner. Its mind blowing. My husband stormed about the house. As the weeks turn into Month I am beginnning to think it was for the best. He wanted to book a holiday for me and my daughter( not his child bit they have become so close she shes him and loves him like s dad) and stay in the house with us pretend everything was fine and tell my daughter before we went away that we were splitting up and he would be gone when we got back,!! We started dating at 17 and married at 25. This went on until October 2015. If there is another woman hes talking to you probably want to know that sooner than later so dont be afraid to confront him on it. $('.submenu2').show(); Specific treatment for this is very hard to get and expensive. Hi.im married to my husband forfor 4 years.i made more money than him.I stuck by him through his madness.Drinking and drugging.He never went for help.I always felt he was doing what he wanted because he just wanted to.I cared for him too much.I let my guard down.He now has a better job and only four months being employed,he says we have nothing in common, we should be friends.He not used to anything.Now he gets another chance of living a better life, hes gone.All he did was lie to me . 2. I All in all, your partner may be using their friends as a means to start the conversation about breaking up. !! Hi Robert! And our fights now revolve around not having sex. I have been madly in love with this woman for the 12 years weve known each other, and of course I was devastated. How could he just walk out? I was trying to close the door a couple of times and since hes a lot stronger than me, I couldnt get it closed. I swear up and down that I wont go back with her but I know that her not taking her meds had a lot to do with us separating. I still love her with all my heart but she continues to treat me worse and worse.