My dad died June 7th. I too searched for somewhere to write my pain. i have so much regret now looking back at how terrible i treated her as a child. The guilt I carry is enormous. I put flowers regularly on his grave. He just turned 45 in October and I just turned 30 in October. We are all on the same road, just different stations. My mom just passed away tonight at 8:18. I know I need to keep going, I need to leave a positive impact on this planet somehow, but I dont seem to have strength right now. It has been awful. How can this of happened, I ask myself every day. Its completely awful and devastating. I am only 22, and I never imagined a life without my father. My father is currently living , just the opposite. Before I hadnt a care in the world. You must communicate with youre sisters Katie. Until one day it did, and every night for weeks I used to cry where no one would see or hear me. I lost my mom 14 yrs ago I remember it like it just happened. Now I know its normal to still have tidal waves of grief, especially because of these special events, but Ive gotten to the point where I can think of him and smile and laugh instead of crying every time he enters my mind. Im overwhelmed. He took an interest in everything and everyone. No one except for my cousin and his wife in my family has called or left a condolence card, except another cousin who took the occasion to lecture me on what to do and how to feel! There are few things you need to realize. They are in the best place ever & one day we will all see one another again in heaven . My grief was not really like anything described here. Not a day goes by where I dont think about him. Im 33 and I lost my Dad 10 days ago to Covid. I never wanted anything other than their love. Part of me is missing with the (unexpected) passing of my father on February 2, 2020. I just lost my dad from Lung cancer 2 weeks ago and the pain of losing him is still unbearable. I was 22 and about to graduate college. There is no refuge for me. They dont get it. But I cant change it. Lost my mom (she was a semi absent parent) 8 years ago and my dad 2 years ago. Thanks for all the stories in this blog. Never lose the light thats inside of you, gifted brighter by your mother. Im so sorry for your loss. I can relate so much to your comment. All emotions are valid, even the ones we are traditionally taught to stay away from! He had just gone into a nursing home last November right before Thanksgiving for Dementia. I just expected some kind of sympathy for his daughter, some kind of empathy for his first & only grandson. My sister is a wonderful person, like my mother. I walk around crying, or walk around hollow. The struggle is real, and it changes you. Some people, without even their presence give comfort to others.. You are one of them.. God bless you.. I met a spirit medium he helped me get closure, I was able to talk her, hear her voice once again it felt good. I Still Miss My Mom -- And That's Okay. | Psychology Today I know it sounds crazy but I feel like its all because I cant grieve properly or I ever have right for my father. I find it so difficult to talk to people and my friends just dont understand. I just want to connect with you to have some words.. or i would rather say to share my grieve. I wasnt that close to my Dad but I am close to my kids. They all said the same thing. I dont want my pain to get any easier because I worry that it means things are getting easier. My dad knew me as a clever person when I was in Junior High, but I cant imagine how sad he is if he know that I am not that clever. And then said he couldnt do anything from rehab. Im really glad to know most of these feelings are normal. I had to step away and take breaths it was so intune and exacting to how I feel and probably always will about my dear mum forever. She was always there. My heart felt like it stopped for a minute, my entire body is completely numb, I get chills thinking about him, confusion, etc! I know theres a beautiful future ahead of you. When does it get better? I wish there is more I could have done. I cant still belive that my dad already passed away. He left us when , I and my brother needed him. He was so proud of me and although he wasnt here physically I also thought finishing my nursing degree would bring me some peace. I was told that time is a great healer, but actually that hasnt worked for me. Im so heartbroken cant accept that hes gone . Thanks for this, lost my dad 7/12/18 one week exactly before his 70th Birthday on 7/19. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I couldnt sleep that evening and I tossed and turned all night, as if I knew I would never see him again. I lost my father 2 weeks ago and I just feel numb. First, I resumed the practice of going to the gym, a hobby Id foregone throughout the course of Dans illness. It hurts. Why Can't I Get Over Him? Here's The Truth | YourTango My dad passed away 6months ago. i still cant accept my fathers death. I just feel undefined and adrift like I as an individual dont exist anymore. Why am I still thinking about my ex girlfriend after 6 months? I just lost my dad last night (I am 39, he was 68) and it helps to know I am not alone. Thank you for this Im 18 and my dad past 11 years even though I was little I was still able to understand and it hurts but thank you for making me feel like Im normal because I was starting to think that crying about his death 11 years later wasnt normal and I know that I should live and cherish his memory and eventually share his memory with my future children. School is going horrible, I cant focus, Im absent the majority of days, Im angry, sad, depressed, and I honestly feel like such a screw up, like Im doing literally everything wrong. that i love her. Im having problems with myself sustaining my emotionssince my father died a year ago (july 11,2019) I did not expect it to happen because everything is working so fine he is cleared from his sickness. I am in a dream-like state when can I wake up from this nightmare, or will I ever? Thank you for sharing. I have been working 7 day weeks and I felt like I was grieving but continuing on, until tonite. My daddy died from the Covid Vaccine. My boyfriend who is a lot younger has tried to reach out, but we are barely out of the pandemic and because he hasnt experienced the death of an immediate family member doesnt know how to react. There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to grieving. I will continue my life in honor of her. Your dad misses you equally. Thank you, Pam, (Ive never left a comment on these websites before but I just had to share my (long) story). It stayed like a zoo for about 2 months, everyone keeps saying oh Becca is so tough. My dad died 6 years ago. Since then my father passed away 6 yrs ago. Our emotions and feeling affect our health, and keeping them bottled up can actually do more harm than you can imagine. That is what hurts me the most! He will get us through our hard situations. I lost him a week ago, missing my best friend, my daddy, gone five weeks already. Found this and had an aha moment like never before. Statistics Look Good! The holidays are especially hard. Does anyone feel like me. My dog died almost 6 months ago now, and everyone seems to - Reddit Is My Ex Gone For Good? - 6 Signs They Are Gone Forever He was healthy and fit and then after battling cancer for under a year since his diagnosis, I watched my Dad slowly waste to nothing standing by him in his final hours of life. I know these feelings are just beginning. I feel as though my young life left with them all. I havent just felt one emotion since my father passed, my experience has been more like travelling the world. We finally compromised and decided that if we couldnt simultaneously diein our sleep when we were in our 90s as planned, then I could go first. It was his dream to see me as a teacher but I cant study. Who do I call when I have a problem or need advice? We two were closer than anybody even my mom. Its been a year since she died. God Bless all whose hearts are broken from losing a parent(s). When I was in the kitchen was cleaning the vegetables I smell strong flower fragrance and I saw him standing and fade away past. Its unexplainable how much I miss him, I wish they had visiting hours in Heaven. He nodded. I lost my dad and buried my dad last weekend. Im hoping time will make my pain ease x. Darryl and Melanie, I just lost my dad on Aug. 11. Same thing as with my brother. About 4 months ago I broke down in front of my friends and they made me realize that its okay to feel this way. As for me, Im up and down. he battled with drug addiction and mental illnesses and in 2016 he approached me, homeless and hadnt eaten in days so i let him stay for a week but something didnt feel right and i told him to leave. I hope he knows that was the reason I visited him after I left at 22 and came back at 28, not to see him after that either. I hear him in my mind. My questions to who ever is reading this comment right now. 21st octover 8 am still no food no water doctor confused how hes managing to stay alive maybe hes got some bad terms he wants to settle, i dwell on it realise its my little boys first birthdays 7th november i never forget suggesting to the nurse maybe hes holding on in guilt still to this day, i dont want him to suffer we will bring his presents round and pretend its his birthday 22nd October. I cannot go the mountain again, I cannot go to Opera again, I cannot ski, I cannot visit places, I cannot eat cakes because I remember them. I was with him when he passed. even though I am at work and trying really hard for no one to notice my eyes getting watery. I understand that its universal to bury your parent. When I wasnt helping with service arrangements, It was like I was hovering over myself, watching me go through this pain. I lost my beloved father yesterday. Lovely to hear. I have lost my dad a year an 1/2 ago and I still feel so lost and sad MANY HEARTFELT BLESSINGS. Ive processed most of this okay. You do (most of) your chores but sometimes none at all. For more information, please see our ive been preparing myself for his death since he had his first stroke in 2007. i feel like ive gone through the gamut of losing him already (my mom died when i was 14 so i knew what to expect in a way). I lost my mum when I was 24 and my dad when I was 31. How I wish I took flights to Dominican Republic to go see him. 1. Anything can set me off, an Elvis Presley song, a memory or even someone that looks like him. Seeing him on a breathing machine ripped me apart and I just wish I could have switched places with my father for my baby brother so he could experience what I felt with my dad. And this article made me sad but it helped a lot. I miss him so much and its really hard to accept that there is no way to hear his voice again nor touch his hands. It is so hard when I do something good I want to go tell him but hes not there. Lost dad November 2nd out of nowhere. Thank you guys. He hasnt ever given me the opportunity to talk , ask questions. Im constantly looking for him and Im so lost. I know everyone says it but he was the most wonderful dear father and grandad. I will send him your article and talk him through your points. Its by far the most memorable event of my life. I am what I am, no more, no less. As time goes by I miss him even more. He will be with you in everything that you do. My mom called me on 07/17/2018 that he was not doing well from a fall. I notice the effect sometimes when I find it hard to make the decision on having children of my own. My mom and I were at the grocery store when we got the call that the doctors coded him and that we should get to the hospital. I cant wait till both my parents are gone, sooooooooooooo annoying and bossy, ugh. I dont want to love. I did feel extremely guilty, he was loved and I miss him everyday. He was weak and so tired, and wanted to die and be with my mom, who passed away 2 years ago, so for him it was a blessing. I once feared death, the unknown.. but Im not afraid of dying, Im only afraid of leaving my 7 to mourn me the rest of their lives as I have my mom. I have been in the denial stage for sure and am just starting to feel the pain. I dont know what to do. 9) And now my best friend just got married and I was her Maid of Honor. it's been six months since - Glosbe Dictionary It really was traumatic and one of the most traumatic things ive ever witnessed. I want to go with my dad, but I remember I still have mum and sist. I cant tell which stage of grief Im in. He truly cares about our feelings and troubles. I actually saw him sitting in my room next to me when I was 13 which has lead me to be a huge researcher now on the lost loved ones and their visits. I try hard these days for my Dads sake and my son who adores her, but reading this has helped me. )I woke him up & said come with me now..we walked to his bedroom window & looked outside & saw our dad Layin face up still clinging & fighting to stay alive.he rolled his head towards the window & he saw us.he immediately became almost @ peace & looked as if he accepted he was dyin,but once he saw us both together safe & sound. Such a painful memory. I am the oldest and am trying to care for everyone from my mom to my sister and my family as well. My brother didnt replace my father, but it gave me a sheltering comfort that I didnt realize was there, until 3 years ago, when that sheltering comfort disappeared. I lost my daddy the day before my 21st birthday. It brings up their own grief and they are unable to handle both their grief and yours. Thank for this post. He had been diagnosed with the horrific, inoperable tumor just two months earlier. If youre struggling with a loss, head over to our help centre to see our resources on grief, loss and bereavement, or take a look at our article on coping with grief at Christmas. Im 25. Do you have a bereavement story youd like to share? We cannot feel bad for being human and losing a part of us for the remainder of our lives. He died from an aggressive form of Alzheimers that took his life in six months. Looking back the call feels like a blur. I lost my dad 4 years ago on Aug. 21st 2015. What lovely words, Im + 20 years on from where you are, I wish you so much the best, and to keep strong, My Mom and Dad are no longer here. I wish you well and hope you continue to find ways to cope with your loss. My father was a great person fully open minded supported me in everything and loved too much I believe that is most of why I struggle is because I dont understand why he left me all alone and didnt think of me when he did that. He was dir-hard dreamer, and he cared a lot about people; so when I helped deliver another baby, started a new job doing in-home care, or was accepted into college, I missed him so much more. He is the greatest man I have ever known. My heart is beyond broken. I didnt say so then, but those few words were exactly what I needed to hear. It has gotten less painful. Thank you for letting me share The day my siblings and I were told, like ten minutes after we had our whole house full of people. I have no siblings, and I simply just feel aloneThis article helped me in more way that you know. Its like an old barn in the pasture. We set up hospice and my flight to cone back home was January 8 2018. And yes people move on where as the beginning they were like Im here for you. Thank you for sharing your story. I just can not see anything getting much better. Basically, I am alone. Be patient with your parents and tell them you love them as much as you can. It just gets worse and worse everyday and deep down I know that its going to happen but I dont want to admit it. The third I really meant because he was already in state he would of wanted the plug to be pulled months ago. My comfortable, safe place. He would of been the best Grandad ever! Thank you all for sharing, I lost my mum and dad just over 3 years ago 4 months apart both age 65. Its hard not to think about him. It was overnight and completely unexpected due to an aneurysm. My dad was married with a kid and a career by this age. I feel guilty I hadnt talked to my Dad more about his life, he had so many stories to share. I said oh he wouldnt want that. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. First of all, no dumper ever misses his dumpee as much as the dumpee misses him. Sharing our grief helps others. I lost my dad two weeks ago. Thanks again for this article. They could only meet him 2 months. He couldnt do anything anyway, he wasnt a doctor. The first 4 days I was so numb. I called so many funeral homes, they heard the C word and one after the other, they all said no. I lost my mother 3 months ago. Everyday I think of him. I really do appreciate you writing this and keeping it real. My Dad just died today. He was the easiest person for me to love. Thank you for writing this article. He wasnt a perfect person, no one is, but to watch the man that raised me suffer for 5 1/2 months then pass away is hard to put into words. I lost my Mum suddenly nearly 5 years ago and lost Dad 5 weeks ago to an extremely aggressive cancer. Ive been so depressed , and aggressive. I excused myself and went to the restroom. Thank you so much for this post. I am grateful I had a long time with him and my mom, but the fact that they were so loving makes me feel even more alone. Cant sleep or eat. I miss them so much. And when I came back, people understandably had moved on. It may help a little but I know that it will never be what it once was. It was a waste of time I just felt she could not be bothered with me. After he died. It wasnt locked, he had collapsed against it, the EMTs had to take the door off the hinges and I got the terrible news sitting in my bedroom as I couldnt bear to watch what was happening pretty much. She became very weak and it was an infection that could not be treated that killed her. Rest well now in heaven pa, no more pain and sickness , we will love you forever and pray for you everydaytill we meet again. I spent months driving around the country, avoiding the life left behind. It still feels like it was yesterday. Been having dreams about him telling me, he loves me and that whenever I need to get something off my chest,just talk because I can hear you day that has passed is everyday that i grief I only cry when im alone i shut down my world i shut other people from my life its like im falling apart. I listen to Jesus because He is my saviour; In my life I have learnt nothing comes easy I remember always being in the hospital with him, never knowing what was going to happen. He died the day before Fathers Day, so it was very very hard. Sometimes people just have to move or change environments just to survive. It has given me the intended inner solace after reading it all here alongwith comments. In November she would have been 90 and just like this thought, I find myself experiencing the worst kind of firsts in my life.so many things happen every day that my first thought is still to share that upcoming event or what a person, only she would remember, had saidwed share emails and phone calls several times a month. My biological father fall 19. We were vacationing and it was just so random and unexpected. I was dumped nearly 8 months ago. I held her hand while she died. I am in so much pain..some days are good and some are horrible. We got something from the VA a couple of days ago, the cancer might have been war related. It is a shame he is not here to witness my graduation because I know he would be bragging about my achievement to all of his friends lol. I look, act and have lived my life almost exactly like him. But I blame that for why my knees and hips hurt 9 years later. This includes my siblings whom also did NOTHING when he needed help the most. Many would not know how I really feel in the outsideI put a good front up, because of the lack of understanding by many. It's been - Idioms by The Free Dictionary We were no longer getting along, being honest and he made it clear he wasn't happy for a while. Answer (1 of 14): This situation is a lot more common than you might think. (I generally believe that our parents and grandparents grew up with much less affection that we did.) My mum passed away very suddenly just 9 weeks ago. My husband just made things harder constantly reminding me of just how much I was failing at my life in his opinion. The anniversary is always a difficult day. I miss him especially now around the holidays but also think about our camping trips, many vacstions around the country, and all the times riding with him on the way to school and for hours on end during road trips. I just lost my Dad two hours ago. You are 100x stronger than you think. But its true that you will find genuine joy again. Every friend around me is having their parents around. My father had been in great health for decades until a few months ago. She drank too much, passed out, and choked on her own vomit. I mean shit happens people die but this is something else. Thats why youre on this page. And im so thankful to them for being there and understanding. I know this is wierd to think about but Ive been depressed lately because I think that he wont be there to walk to down the isle when/ if I get married. My father passed away yesterday, at the age of 87. I find I am now getting on with what is important. Their home was my home. Since then, i feel that ive changed. I gave birth late last year I could see the resemblance in my new baby girl. Heidy, You are so mature to write what you did in this column. What this scripture is highlighting the fact that God is close to us through our most difficult of times. I got to the point where i use to get satisfaction out of self harming due to being depressed through the amount of drugs I was taking trying to mask my feelings and pain towards the situation. I mean do I really have to do the same things ie get a job, buy my groceries and so without really a purpose? It seems as though its harder now that the holidays are over. I miss him so much. I spent literally every moment of my remaining three weeks in the intensive Care Unit crying and although I managed to complete it I feel exhausted and completely empty. Now I really miss him. I can kinda feel it coming. Try youre best to keep all 4 sisters talking. Sat in his chair passed away I have even moved apartment and to be married in a few months. Im a high school senior and its tough knowing that he wont get to see me graduate, even though for all my life hes been a champion in encouraging me to study hard and make him proud. Its always useful to read articles from other The sadness is daily. And I also have so much regrets I get you. Thank you for your advice I used to think that im the only one that feels the pain. Unfortunately hes currently asleep all the time and struggling to breathe so all our talking is over. I lost my beloved Mum on 8 May 2019. It feels unreal. Has anyone lost their parents close together like that? Id hate to be them. Ask as many questions as possible. From my personal experience, Ive put together some things which I experienced that you might not have thought about or expected to happen. I never told him that but I really hope he knows. He's already been to Tunisia, and is to go on to Morocco and Mauritania. He was tested with COVID-19 with mild symptoms and was home quarantined. Because of Covid, my mom and I couldnt see him while he was in the hospital, and couldnt talk to him because he was on a ventilator and was heavily sedated. I know this is for people who have already lost their parent but I just had to comment ..we found out my dad had cancer 3 months ago by the time we knew it was already spread to his bones we found out yesterday hes got 3 months max left with us ..I cant bare to think of my life without him its devastating and I dont think Im going to cope atall my life has fallen apart I just dont want to go on ..how do I get through this. He was at home from December 4th battling for two weeks what seemed to be signs of Covid. We were beyond close and sounded identical often. Youve learned how fragile life is and that creates a sense of urgency to live. I lost my father recently, and I didnt live with him full time. My first home, my no matter what home. My dad is still in deep depression and i dont know how to help him. Tomorrow he may die. Bye. and our Then my mum 6 months ago. I miss him so much that at times I dont see the world the same anymore. Although I wish my father was still here or I could get a few more years with him; I know he endured so much through his sickness. Honey that would be the worst thing that could ever happen. Very broad minded and a progressive person. Now I realized how much he meant to me and he was my whole world. The first few weeks I was feeling strong mostly because I dedicated myself to taking care of my dad everyday during his last 4 months, so I had this feeling of comfort in knowing that I was there for him all the time and gave him my love and attention. The first year I went completely off the rails. Moved. We left, went down the elevator crying, and told my relatives what the doctor said. I miss my daddy he was my everything it so hard am 16 about to be 17 I gust wish my dad would just be here if u did see my dad one more time I would never let him go I would just tell him how much I love him and how much he means to me he touch so many people hearts and I will never forget about him so people say it will get better but it doesnt seem like it seem like it gets worser and worse this so hard think my dad is gone because I love him two death and every time I think about him I cant help but cry this is 2 much for me to handle for this age I would do anything to get him back like evertime I try to be strong my dad was the best thing that ever happen to me he would do anything to keep me happen he was an overportive dad [ps daddy ][I love u so much ][fly high angle] you wear the best thing that ever happen to me u will always be the best thing that ever happen to me I will never forget u u will always bee in my heart forever and always, My mom just past away a 4 days ago. Reading this was so difficult because it is exactly similar to what I have been going through. I am 31. I had no energy, no space in my soul, for anything other than those two tasks.
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